The last few months were not easy. I would like to write this blog post to help YOU to get over a hard time. Usually, when we go through a hard time, we don’t really feel about going out or talking to friends or even our partner. That makes the situation much worse than talking.
Most of us call it depression as well, as the person has feelings which nobody else can really understand. A depression is hard and not easy to get over, but it makes you stronger.
What is depression?
Depression is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home.
Don’t underestimate this topic. As I said before, it is not hopeless, and you can get over it. You must work on it, even when you don’t feel like it.
How to make the first step to get out of a depression?
It is important that you are honest to yourself and say it “I am having a hard time, but I am getting out of it.” That is not a shame. If you realize, you must change something then it will change something.
Talk to a good friend or your partner, someone who understands you. Be honest with them and take some advice. You don’t have to do it, like they say, but at least listen to them.
Take time to get fresh air, each day. You can just go for a nice walk and put some relaxing music into your ears or listen to a podcast. I am doing this since a while, and this really helps to get my focus on the right things.
If you like to do sports, like running or go to the gym and you didn’t do it, because of the fact, you didn’t feel like it. Now is the time, to get up, dress up and show up. Sport is the best therapy ever.
Go and have a nice time with your friends.
Have a nice time and see new things. It doesn’t have to be expensive. You can go together to the gym or have a nice coffee or tea.
These tips can help you, when you really want to change something. The most important step to get over your own struggles is, to realize something is not going the way you were used to it.
Are you reading and journal?
End of 2010, beginning of 2011, when I had to realize that I need to slow down as I was just tired and felt terrible about myself, after a breakup and not enjoying the work anymore. At this time, I had to ask for help. Therefore, I went into a clinic by the end of 2012 and I was already on some medication. The clinic was the only hope to get some clarification about my past and say “YES” to my future. I started to read a lot of books at that time. Never was reading a big part of my life. But I knew I must work on myself to get better and find the way out of this situation.
What has the journal to do with your struggles?
Do you have dreams and goals in life? When you are on a point, where you ask yourself, “Am I worth it?” You should start to write things down to get some clarification for yourself. Start little and increase it after a while. I started to write down the things I liked on myself and the things I didn’t like. This was how I saw myself. Today, I journal every morning and evening and have a weekly and monthly review as well.
Journaling helps you to get to know you better and find out what goals you have. What I am going to do for you all is to include a free Journal Page for yourself which you can download and start changing your life.
The big change and challenge by then came in 2013 when my partner told me he will leave for Ireland in around 4 weeks and he had to cancel our apartment.
I felt horrible, I thought “that’s it – it’s over”, but taking one step back and looking from a different perspective on this situation, I realized that this is a chance to start over. I went back on my feet and looked after a solution and when my partner left Germany in April 2013, I came over to Ireland on the 5th of August in 2013. Well, we did not know if it is going to be so quick, but I told myself if something must change then now. Therefore, ask yourself the following three questions:
- When did you change something in your life for the last time?
- How did you feel?
- Did you know it is a good decision?
Are you making a decision?
I know that we often struggle in a difficult time or period to make a good decision for ourselves. But, better make a decision as feeling not good for the next couple of month or years.
If you want to know about my journey to move to another country, you can ask me anytime. Just send me an email or text me on Instagram via @stephanieilona. I am not going into the whole story right now as I wanted to keep this article mainly about some helpful tips for you.
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